Some human emotions can be intoxicating and detrimental to our wellbeing. When we are overcome with anger, it may feel good, like being high on a drug, and it can be addictive. On the other hand, our emotions can also be supportive, liberating and life-enhancing. The affect depends on which ones we choose to immerse ourselves in. I use the word “choose” because, even though it may not feel like we have a choice when we are overcome with a negative emotion, we do; we have the ability to make a conscious decision to embrace a life-enhancing, positive emotion instead.

ArguingI first started working on effective methods to manage my emotions quite a few years back. I remember a time, about 16 years ago, when my teenage stepson blew up and started yelling while we were standing in the kitchen. I don’t even recollect what we were arguing about, but I do remember that I allowed myself to get caught up in the argument, enabling him to take me down that road, rather than taking a few moments to center myself before responding and guiding us down a different path. I remember thinking how good it felt to be angry, even though I was not enjoying arguing with my stepson. It was stimulating, intoxicating, and frustrating at the same time!

love-emotionThrough experience I have found that the more I practice managing my emotions the easier it becomes to shift from a negative sensation like fear, to the positive emotion of love. I find that, for me, the key is not reacting immediately. First I give myself a moment or two to regain balance, because if I do not hesitate before acting I can easily get caught up in the emotion, enabling the other person to influence my reaction; when I let that happen it is much more difficult return to center and a positive state of mind.

For instance, during the episode with my stepson mentioned above, I could have hesitated and taken a few breaths, centering myself, before responding to his rant. I might have changed my countenance from a frown to a smile, looking at him, feeling love and appreciation for a few moments before talking. I know that sounds effortless, but it’s not that easy to do during a heated interaction.

Many of us feel like we have to reply immediately after another person says something – we don’t. In many ways silence during a moment or two of hesitation speaks much louder than anything we could say.


  • Stop, Breathe & Center
  • Feel something positive about the other person or situation
  • Respond


Below are some emotions to ponder.

Emotions that lower our vibration:


  • Fear – Feeling fearful – aversion
  • Anger – Hostility, ranging from mild irritation to intense fury and rage
  • Jealousy – The perception that a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival
  • Self-pity – Dwelling on one’s own sorrows or misfortunes
  • Envy – Resentment of a perceived advantage enjoyed by another person(. )
  • Frustration – A dissatisfaction from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs
  • Worry – Anxiousness over perceived present or future difficulties
  • Apprehension – Being anxious or fearful about the future, uneasy, feeling off-center


Emotions that raise our vibration:


  • Love – A strong affection
  • Appreciation – Gratitude, thankful recognition, admiration
  • Joy – Feelings of great happiness
  • Hope – A feeling that something one desires is likely to happen
  • Confidence – Belief in oneself, someone else, a cause or course of action – being certain about someone or something
  • Gratitude – Being grateful, thankful, or appreciative about someone or something
  • Trust – Firm belief in reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something
  • Optimism – Expecting a favorable outcome


I find that it helps to practice on minor interactions with others. I’ve come a long way with managing my emotions, but as a human being I always need to be vigilant. I have noticed that by maintaining a high vibration (a positive state of mind) that I very rarely attract discordant interactions with others, and if they do occur the incident is minor.


Be joyful, embrace life and thrive!

With love,




Randy Monk is an international teacher of self-improvement, metaphysics and spiritual growth. He is the author of Life Mastery Tools for The Age of Ascension and Co-Authored the Becoming an Alpha Master audio program with Ronna Herman. He also helps people discover their life purpose, manage life’s challenges and manifest their dreams. Randy teaches via the internet and workshops through Quest for Mastery Programs and his Timely Guidance website. More recently he has ventured out into a business, Emissary Resources, with tools to assist Creatives and Messengers to deliver their works globally.

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